Tonight begins our first Crazy Intense Holiday Celebration Week While Married. Writing that sentence was sort of overwhelming, and the festivities haven’t even started yet.
Holidays this year are a little funky. In years past, we have trekked the 30 minutes to my parents’ house and gathered there with my parents and brother (all of whom lived there) and my sister and her boyfriend (who definitely did not live there). This year, things are a little different, and we are hosting! Whoa, hello there, Being a Grownup, I think I was entirely unprepared for your arrival. But sure, pull up a seat and feel free to go through anything in the fridge. Yes, help yourself. I can handle you because I am now a Grownup and can make up the rules about what time of day I get to start drinking.
Since the arrival of the holidays amidst a fractured family can really emphasize what’s missing, my lovely wife and I decided that we need to embrace some new traditions. One of them we realized we already have: Solstice.
Solstice is the shortest day of the year, and this year there is also an eclipse. Exciting! Last year – and now this year as well – we are staying at the Inn of Wedding Fame, and then tomorrow we will go for our annual walk in the woods. We exchange a couple of small gifts, spend a lot of time reading in front of the fireplace at the inn, and enjoy a lot of good tea. It’s nothing fancy, there’s not a lot involved, but it does feel sacred.
The second new tradition? Ornaments. Not just the Gayest Snow(wo)man Ornament, which maybe should be a tradition, but this year we begin exchanging ornaments. Can’t show you anything yet, since it’s still a secret from Turtle, but this is one I’m excited about.
And the tradition we are still struggling to sort out: our birthdays. Mine is the 27th, hers is the 28th, my dad’s is the 29th, and my brother’s is January 6th. This does not leave much recovery time. Quick! Find traditions for EVERY DAY for a WEEK, stat.
What are your holiday traditions? What do you wish they were? If you’re married, have you made up new ones with your new baby family?