While our wedding itself was nontraditional in that we are two women marrying each other, we did try to keep many traditional elements to the whole thing. It was really important to us that our wedding was clearly a wedding, that it was the same ceremony that thousands of other couples go through when they create their new families with the blessings of their friends and the families they came from.
Some of the tradition we kept was in the structure of the ceremony, and some in the script itself. When we exchanged rings, we said:
With this ring, I give you my promise to honor you, to be faithful to you, and to share my love and life with you in all ways, always. With this ring, I thee wed.
And that’s what I want to tell you about: our rings. I’ve talked about our search for wedding rings a few times before. It was important to me, for awhile, that the rings be identical, or at least very similar to each other, so that we would be recognized as two women married to each other, not just as two married women. In the end, that went out the window. Turtle found her ring at an antique shop in Boston, and she swooned. She didn’t want to take it off. It was clearly *her ring*, and it didn’t hurt that it matched her engagement ring.
My ring, funny enough, was the one that I had first fallen in love with, then briefly rejected for the love of another ring, and then finally accepted, and I couldn’t love it more. We had both rings engraved with our pre-marital initials, and mine says MyInitials to HerInitials 9-18-10, and hers says HerInitials to MyInitials 9-18-10. All the time I spent agonizing over the right thing seems a little bit silly now, because it’s so clear that we did what was right for us – but I think that that’s how a lot of our wedding decisions went.
How did you make your ring decisions? Does your ring match your spouse’s? Tell me about your interesting/exciting engravings!