Last night, we went to our favorite wine store for our favorite weekly wine tasting with two of our friends. It’s worth noting, for the purposes of this story, that both friends are women, and they are married – to each other! Oh gosh, the things you are allowed to do in this day and age.
Anyway, not only was this week a slightly fancier wine-tasting than usual, but there were also local politicians who are running for office; it was a Meet the Candidate evening. Okay, fine – I didn’t really want to chat too much, but I figured we could drink some wine and avoid the politics. Oh how wrong I was.
After a few minutes there, a man in a nice shirt walked over with some brochures and roped us in. We were wary at first, but eventually he declared himself “a liberal democrat, the last of a dying breed,” and brought up gay marriage and a couple of other issues we were interested in, with a perspective we agreed on. He pointed out that this really is an important election, but also one that a lot of people don’t know much about, and so “the blanks win”. He asked us to please spread the word about him, and honestly, after talking to him, I am happy to. Friend E smiled and said, “Well, you’ve got my vote.” So if you’re considering not voting, or are not sure who to vote for for governor’s council, let me suggest Terry Kennedy.
Shortly after that conversation, another man came up to us and introduced himself. I realized who he was and I really wanted some wine, so I just told him: “We’re voting for the other guy.” He sort of smiled, and then asked why, which I countered with, “How do you feel about gay marriage?”
There we were, two legally-in-Massachusetts-and-a-handful-of-other-states married lesbian couples, and he told us why we shouldn’t have the right. Some gems include:
– “Well, I believe marriage is only for having and raising children.” He had no response to A & E’s assertion that they plan to have kids, or my response that we’re interested in providing foster care.
– “I’m divorced, and my girlfriend is divorced, and lots of gay couples are divorced now, too!” Um… thanks, I’m convinced.
– “Well, my girlfriend and I decided not to get married.” He couldn’t think of what to say when I pointed out that he could make that choice.
– “Yeah, I think you should have all the tax benefits, absolutely, and of course you should be able to have hospital and jail visitation. But that’s not marriage.”
Ugh. I think my favorite was, “Well, my girlfriend and I decided not to get married. We were both married before, had our kids, and don’t want more.” Well, thanks, Mr. Politician. Enjoy your privilege.
What’s the point of telling you this? The point is: it turns out that the upcoming election really is important. Please do some research, even just a little bit, and make sure to vote.
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