I’ve been reading some other peoples’ wedding blogs and various people have posted about wedding nightmares. Not “it was a nightmare!” but actual “I went to sleep and dreamt that the back of my dress was missing or no one showed up or the cake was made out of dirt.” And I was like, “Silly brides, don’t worry! You’ll be fine.”
Well, last night I had my first wedding nightmare. And I know other peoples’ dreams are really boring to read about, so I’ll try to keep it brief: I dreamt that suddenly it turned out that TOMORROW was September 18th and we were getting married. And that was that. Only everything was sort of in real time, so our dress fitting isn’t until next Tuesday and my suit – the muslin version – hasn’t even arrived in the mail. Oh, and our vows are written only in the sense that we have a pageful of phrases.
So yes, my DreamSelf could have stood up there in a dress that’s a little too long with her fiancee in a dress that’s a little too loose (we could pin it in back, I guess?) and say things like, “I promise to always find time to play with you, I vow to slow down, I thee wed.” Sweet.
I suspect that this is happening because 2 months is creeping up next week, and then from there we’re talking weeks to go: 7 weeks, 6 weeks – I know that it’s more than a month, but it’s just weeks. Also, I’ve been trying to stay calm by reminding myself that all we need is each other and the people surrounding us – but my lovely dream last night reminded me that while we don’t need dresses that fit perfectly, it turns out that is something that I care about.
Any countdown advice? I was the kid in school who went back and forth between two extremes: I was either up the night before starting a paper or I had finished it three weeks earlier. There was never a gradual progression of studying/paper writing, and this whole wedding planning thing is a gradual process. But everything will be okay, right?
Okay, yes, it will, and I know that. But any advice on trusting that everyone else will be ready (suit-makers, caterers, bridesmaids in dresses, people who are making quilt squares if we ever actually send them the cloth)? This is definitely the right way to start a Wednesday – stressed out and ready to do something about it.