Yesterday I talked a little bit about wanting some feedback on what you’re “supposed” to do when you get married. Deep things, like shoes. I love the support from all of you, but the identical look of horror on my mom’s and my sister’s faces today has somewhat dissuaded me from wearing Chacos. However, I am considering these lovelies, which I think I could wear to other fancy events, and would also go with both suit and dress, no?
Anyway, the other thing I have realized I want in the way of traditional things are bridesmaids. Or attendants, whatever you want to call them. Everyone at the wedding will be people that we very intentionally want there and have asked to come because they are people who are very important in our life. We have even not invited some important people, because it turns out if you invite one person they do sort of come with other people, and we are trying to keep it small, which stinks, but that’s how it is.
Anyway, with all of that in mind, it seems a little strange to pick people from the group who will be there to be our special attendants/bridespeople/wedding helperbees. But the thing is, we knew almost immediately who those people would be. Isn’t that funny? They are people who have been incredibly important to us individually, and also incredibly important to us as a couple. They are people that we have spent a lot of time with as we’ve grown into our relationship, and people who have supported us immensely during these past couple of years.
So what can we force them to wear?
Just kidding. At first I wanted them to just wear whatever and we would give them a flower or something, but I realized that I want them more recognizable than that, and so we are in search of dresses that four people who are different heights and have different body types can all feel comfortable in, and hopefully even wear again. When I was a bridesmaid for one of my friends, she picked a few JCrew dresses and a color and we each chose the one we wanted to wear – and I have worn that dress a million times since then! Too bad JCrew doesn’t have much good stuff right now. Any suggestions?
The other things I realized is that there are things that someone needs to take responsibility for, and that someone cannot be me, and it cannot be Turtle. For example, we really want a bridal shower. I admit that I am unsure of where this urge comes from, but it is an urge, and we have it, and someone else should plan it. We’ll show up, it’ll be fun. Also, I want people to get ready with us! And actually be responsible for making toasts! I’m not sure what else these ladies are supposed to do, but we will have ladies and they will do them!
Now that we’ve (more or less) decided to have these pretty pretty people in our ceremony, I feel sort of awkward that I never officially asked them, but just sent them something about a dress or a flower or something… sorry ladies. I hope you know I want you, and if you don’t but you think this might be about you, please ask. Kthx.
And everyone else, please tell me your bridesmaid experiences, where to find good dresses, and what bridesmaids are actually supposed to do.